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The Dating Game…
Well, it’s February and I felt it was high time we tackled what to wear if you are back on the dating scene.
Modern life means that this can happen to us at any age….it’s no longer a prerogative of the young. I come across many women in their 50’s and 60’s who are still very much in the “game” when it comes to searching for love – and good on them too. We are all aware that “self confidence is the most attractive thing you can wear”. People like me make sure of that. That’s all very well but how do you manage this when dating can be an unnatural and uncomfortable place?
Read on for some tried and tested style and confidence tips:
- Men say that they prefer natural beauty to heavy make-up. They also place “youthful looks” high up on the list of desirables. I don’t know many women who actually look more youthful sans make-up. Ensure that yours is expertly applied to roll back the years, enhance your best bits and make you positively glow. There are so many great products on the market that do just this.
- Sticking with the theme of “natural beauty” try not to look “high maintenance”. Most men don’t value being fashion forward as a must have. We may have impressed our female counterparts with the latest “It-bag” but men actually site huge handbags as a big turn off. Just as well they have got smaller and more manageable this season (handbags that is, not men).
- That’s enough about what men want – time to think about what you want. If you are looking for a “keeper” then dressing in an overtly sexual manner isn’t a good idea. Likewise feeling that you have to put on the appearance of being a “femme fatale” can just be exhausting if that isn’t the real you.
- Now for the confidence part. Time to introduce a little NLP technique. Close your eyes and remember a time when you FELT supremely confident. Notice what you are wearing; how it feels; what people are saying. Is there a song associated with this particular memory? If so play it before you go out. Extract what it was about your appearance that made you feel so good. Replicate this when choosing what to wear for your next date (or go and see a qualified NLP practitioner who will enable you to harness those good, good feelings and bring them on whenever you need them).
- Dress for the occasion. Meeting for a mid-morning coffee? Then you are aiming for the middle ground. Anything that is suitable for dog walking is not good enough. Anything that wouldn’t look out of place in a night club is way too much. Evening drinks? Keep it polished yet relaxed. Feminine rather than glamorous. Save something in reserve for next time…..
- Start with the bottom – footwear. Get this right and the rest will fall into place. Even if you have 100 pairs of shoes/boots/flip flops BUT none of them are quite right then you need that 101th pair (plus a session with a Personal Stylist to ensure you never end up in this situation again). Having uncomfortable footwear is an unnecessary distraction that you can do without – especially when on a date.
Finally, list ALL of your great attributes. Not just physical but everything about your personality too. Know your worth and exactly why any man should be proud to have you. All you need to do then is to make sure that he is worthy!
Katherine B x
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