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What does Confidence mean to you?
Not anyone else, what is your perception of Confidence?
The reason I ask is quite simple… you can’t be something that you don’t quite grasp!

Confidence means so many different things to so many people. For instance, some would say that Confidence is showing off, or has a slight Arrogance to it or even Aggression linked in with it. So you can see now, why I am asking exactly how you perceive confidence. The above descriptions are all negatives, and when we’re talking about Self Improvement, I have no need, use or want for negatives!

Positive is Power!

And Confidence is Power – you need an abundance of it in so many situations, including getting yourself shown in the best possible light at that great job interview, or standing out in the crowd on a Saturday night and landing yourself with that dream guy!

In short, Confidence is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself, and costs absolutely nothing!

So how do you find Confidence?

Well, Confidence quite simply is a trust within one’s self and one’s own abilities to do what is best for you with ease, and self-knowledge.

Confidence allows you to shine, but not show off.

Confidence is not arrogance, nor aggression, but is a free ease whereby one can be creative without false judgment of yourself or others

Confidence is NOT Comparisons.

Doesn’t sound that hard does it. But to help you boost your Confidence for the coming year I’ve 5 easy steps for you to follow…

Firstly, I want you to create your very own list of any personal achievements, without comparisons, and place a value onto them.

This could be anything from becoming a parent, passing a driving test, landing a great job, being a charitable person, self reliance, or even just managing to get up out of bed every morning! The value you place onto them could be an imaginary bronze, silver or gold star. Either way, they ALL contain value.

Now, once you have your list I want you to create an invisible Circle of power on the floor. You could use a hoola hoop if you wish, but just imagine a fabulous circle on the floor, and step right into it. Now once you are in your circle, I want you to surround it with a colour, any colour, which makes you feel really good!

Now, just imagine that you are truly untouchable within this circle of powerful colour! Inside this circle there are no comparisons, no competition, just your own values and achievements. Inside Your circle, you are completely relaxed, at ease and happy with yourself, and your world.

Slowly sit down within your circle and close your eyes just for a moment, and try to relax. The more you can relax, the more you can focus your mind. A good way to relax is simply to breath in for 4 breaths through the nose, and 5 breaths slowly out through the mouth, while visualising that you are surrounded by your perfect coloured circle of power, it’s values, achievements, and exciting possibilities.

Hopefully you’re feeling nice and relaxed now….

Next, I want you to slowly allow yourself to become at one with the circle and the relaxation experience.

Keep focusing until you feel softly relaxed and happy. Now, you can start to imagine You at your future best in any one of your chosen situations. Just view your future self, and how you walk, stand, talk and present yourself to others. You can even play around and step into the new you, and see how others react to you, or even step into other people and get a feeling from their perspective too!

Just go ahead and allow your imagination to have some fun. Stay focused, and really see how different your world could be when you are confident!

You may well be standing with a more upright stance and posture, with your chin up, shoulders relaxed and back. See yourself talking with pride and ease, looking at others directly in the eye, smiling or nodding your head casually. Know that you trust in yourself, and that people accept you willingly.

I want you to continue to play around with this little role-play within your minds eye over the next few days, and even add a few affirmations to yourself along the way.

Next time you need to put your confidence into practice… guess what?

You already have! And you will find that things will run a lot more smoothly, and positively than expected. You can take your circle of power with you anywhere and at any time, and no one will ever know! Because it’s there already, firmly set within your own brilliant mind.

Finally, here are a few top tips that may assist you with your ‘future viewing’ that you may wish to add to your circle of power…

• Bright and colourful clothing
• Good posture and stance
• Confident full stride walk
• Smiling, nodding, eye contact
• Speaking directly with clarity and volume
• Standing with good relaxed posture, facing whom you are talking to
• Looking around at others as you walk, and smiling with ease
• Introducing yourself openly and easily
• Relaxed hand gestures and expressiveness

Naturally you can add other bits and pieces yourself, but the above is designed just to get you started.

So what are you waiting for? Go get that Job, Man or Business deal, and impress yourself as well as others… and walk into 2009 with Confidence!

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