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Part One:

• Do you ever try to be superwoman and end up resenting saying Yes when you mean No?
• Do you find you over commit yourself?
• Do you find you often attract needy people?
• Do you feel the need to be needed?
• Do you feel more comfortable giving then receiving?
• Do you secretly feel angry others don’t do the same for you?
• Do you feel a lot of guilt if you say No to a request for help?

I would like to ask some thought provoking questions for any of you who race around acting like Superwoman…

OK, so lets take a look at this behaviour. Why is it so many women feel they have to do everything expected of them? Why do they feel their family or office will collapse if they say No?

Before we start thinking, well it is selfish to say No, and it is rude to turn down someone requesting help, and I enjoy helping others anyways, let’s look at this another way, isn’t it a tiny bit arrogant to think that people cannot manage without us? Do we feel no one can do things as well as us, or do we feel a great sense of superiority that others depend on us?

Get honest here. Is there an ego attached here, in that we secretly feel if we don’t run around doing xyz, then we will be redundant and then who will want is, or pay attention to us? Do we feel that insecure that we don’t truly believe people at work or at home or our partner would give us much time or attention if we are not helping them in one way or another or being of service?

Is it really vital you are seen as being oo soooo ‘nice’ and if you say No, then you need to justify or defend so you can explain how nice you are and that you would never offend anyone? Would you feel riddled with guilt and shame if you turned down a request, or do you worry you may lose friends, and family members may turn against you? Do you fear being alone and keep saying Yes and bending yourself to everyone else’s requirements?

I would like you to write down the last few times when you said yes, but meant No. Be vigorously honest my friend, otherwise there ain’t no point doing this!

Join me in Part Two to read some tips on how to change this behaviour…

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